Finding time for just me is hard. I don't make myself a big priority because the needs of my boys (all 3 of them) are more important to me. But on days like today, when I am tired and almost at my wits end, I think if I found more time for myself I would handle situations with my boys better. Yes, I take my role as a mom and as a wife very seriously but if I am not Gina then I can't be the best mom and wife that they need me to be.
My showers are usually 7 rushed minutes long. I shave every other few days and can do it under a minute. My hair is usually rocked by the mom bun and my everyday wear is yoga pants (even if I don't workout that day). I drink my coffee cold because I don't get time to sip and drink it in one sitting. My hands have cuts on them from washing them every two seconds (spit up, cleaning potties, laundry, dishes...) My shirt is usually stained with milk and my pajamas rarely match. My make-up routine is under 3 minutes and my shoes consist of Toms because they are the easiest to take on and off. I think I eat healthy but when I look back I will eat anything that is quick because feeding my kids is more important. This is not me, Gina. I hate laziness and love productivity. I put thought and care into my cooking, hospitality, gifts, my words, my kids, but when it comes to me--why don't I apply that sort of care?
Recently I began to think what message I was sending to my husband, my children, my family, and my friends. If I want them to always feel cared for and to be healthy and put together, then I should be an example of it myself. I am worth the extra time and shouldn't feel guilty for giving myself an extra 5 minutes to feel put together. I shouldn't feel bad for taking 20 minutes to get a workout in. I need to be reminded that it is okay to give myself some time. A few extra minutes here and there will do a world of difference in my confidence and my attitude and that helps everybody out.
Nick is great at encouraging me to give me some me time but I rarely do because I am a control freak. I get nervous that if I find time for myself then something else will get neglected. I don't want to be defined by fear though. I want to care for this body that God has given me and sometimes that requires putting in some extra time.
Goals for myself:
- Get a pedicure (regularly)
- Workout for 20 min+ 3 times a week
- Take showers without always rushing
- Read books more slowly and carefully
- Get out of the house for reasons other than errands, & alone
- Get my hair cut (it's been over 8 months)
- Buy some new jeans
- Get a massage (or 2)
I am sure I am not the only mom here who puts herself on the back burner. Let's start making ourselves a priority, if possible. Trust me a 10-minute shower will do wonders on your outlook for the day.
Picture from my wedding day taken by Candace Clark (Fingerprints Photography)